Comments on: It doesn’t matter if you were right, resist the urge to say “I told you so” http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/it-doesnt-matter-if-you-were-right-resist-the-urge-to-say-i-told-you-so/ Helping business analysts become leaders and advance their careers. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:00:42 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Linda Bogie http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/it-doesnt-matter-if-you-were-right-resist-the-urge-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-1706 Linda Bogie Sat, 11 Jul 2009 05:49:37 +0000 http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/?p=917#comment-1706 The "I told you so" makes me want to laugh out loud. How many times have I walked into a totally new environment, new project, new system, new industry, new people, a certified total newbie, but somehow can quickly figure out "that won't work" and tried with grace and humility to explain the risk, only to be looked at like I'm from another planet. No, not quite another planet, just BA DNA, and I totally agree, the "I told you so" just isn't the way to go. However justified we may be to feel that way, it's the quickest way to alienate the business and fellow team members. We can be much more effective in an atmosphere of trust. Being right but having the humility to encourage and lead builds trust and credibility. The “I told you so” makes me want to laugh out loud. How many times have I walked into a totally new environment, new project, new system, new industry, new people, a certified total newbie, but somehow can quickly figure out “that won’t work” and tried with grace and humility to explain the risk, only to be looked at like I’m from another planet.

No, not quite another planet, just BA DNA, and I totally agree, the “I told you so” just isn’t the way to go. However justified we may be to feel that way, it’s the quickest way to alienate the business and fellow team members. We can be much more effective in an atmosphere of trust. Being right but having the humility to encourage and lead builds trust and credibility.

]]> By: Laura Brandau http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/it-doesnt-matter-if-you-were-right-resist-the-urge-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-1150 Laura Brandau Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:23:35 +0000 http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/?p=917#comment-1150 Thanks for your comments! Meyer, I'm curious about the reference to Myer-Brigg's and what drove it....I am actually an INTP, so close, but not spot on. I definitely am not under the impression that all analyst's share a certain personality type, so just wondering about your analysis and how I can make sure this blog appeals to analysts across personality types. Thanks, Laura Thanks for your comments!

Meyer, I’m curious about the reference to Myer-Brigg’s and what drove it….I am actually an INTP, so close, but not spot on. I definitely am not under the impression that all analyst’s share a certain personality type, so just wondering about your analysis and how I can make sure this blog appeals to analysts across personality types.

Thanks,
Laura

]]> By: Meyer Rafael http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/it-doesnt-matter-if-you-were-right-resist-the-urge-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-1149 Meyer Rafael Wed, 24 Jun 2009 06:50:47 +0000 http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/?p=917#comment-1149 Well said Helen, "The saying goes, people don’t remember what you do but how you made them feel."... very Pavlovian, very plugged into human behavior. Other readers: neglect this advice at your own peril. Well said Helen, “The saying goes, people don’t remember what you do but how you made them feel.”… very Pavlovian, very plugged into human behavior. Other readers: neglect this advice at your own peril.

]]> By: Meyer Rafael http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/it-doesnt-matter-if-you-were-right-resist-the-urge-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-1148 Meyer Rafael Wed, 24 Jun 2009 06:47:26 +0000 http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/?p=917#comment-1148 Your description of an analyst is a Myer-Brigg's INTJ personality type. Your advice is well founded. Saying "I told you so" is a great temptation. Yielding to it will serve no one except the claimant's ego. I testify, as first hand witness, the temptation is great and the uselessness is commensurate. Your description of an analyst is a Myer-Brigg’s INTJ personality type. Your advice is well founded. Saying “I told you so” is a great temptation. Yielding to it will serve no one except the claimant’s ego. I testify, as first hand witness, the temptation is great and the uselessness is commensurate.

]]> By: Oshun http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/it-doesnt-matter-if-you-were-right-resist-the-urge-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-1146 Oshun Tue, 23 Jun 2009 15:16:29 +0000 http://www.bridging-the-gap.com/?p=917#comment-1146 Laura - I think that is the most important point of this article. 'Having the idea is not nearly as important as leading the group to the best idea'. One of the skillsets of a good BA, and one of the more difficult ones to master, is influencing or maybe selling is a better word for it. Great article! Thanks Laura – I think that is the most important point of this article. ‘Having the idea is not nearly as important as leading the group to the best idea’. One of the skillsets of a good BA, and one of the more difficult ones to master, is influencing or maybe selling is a better word for it. Great article! Thanks

]]>